In a few months I will be 33. I will continue to be employed. I will be living on my own helping to pay the mortgage of a really nice landlord. I will be happy. I will be successful. I will be who I am. I will not be pretending to be who I am not, and spending time with those who may drag me down. I will be more confident, more outspoken when needed, and more responsible. I will be the best that I can be leading up to 33, and even better when I get to this stated age.
So where does this all come from? Leaving the life at sea brings many challenges and awareness. From the life of everything being available and basically handed to you, to a life of making an extra effort to make things happen, it all comes down to the attitude and determination that you have. So what is this checklist all about? It seems to be what I need to look at when getting into a situation, going somewhere, or lately pretty much anything at all. When I was younger, I was pretty sure I wouldn’t be let’s say for this debate, single at 32. Not engaged and no where close to that, not married, no kids, no house, but I do have a beautiful car, a great job, and an amazing family that I am now here to see more of.
I have been out there meeting people along the way, and prior to being back on land, I didn’t really date in the “Canadian pool” of guys. I was more of an “International” dater, as the people I met where from around the world on the ship. The only thing that I knew for sure was that they had a job, had passed the requirements to be onboard and that was pretty much it. Here on land, you just never know what you might run into. I feel like I am in a foreign land of lies, a bit of weirdness, and very much the unknown. So my new checklist going forward, working up into my 33rd year includes the following items:
1 – Do you have a job? A car? A place to live?
2 – Do you own any thing that would let’s say shoot something?
3 – Do you have a goal to achieve?
4 – Do you have a valid passport?
5 – Where have your travels brought you to?
6 – And the questions go from there.
My questioning and interviewing skills have become more sharper being back on land and I wonder to myself, when will this all come together. Each day is different but kind of the same. Each day I think of the choice that I made to leave the life at sea to be back on land, and contemplate and remember that I did make the right decision. My checklist is a starting point, but if you don’t have any guidelines or directions, you might just end up off track and that’s ok. But getting close to 33, I want to be on track, making it all happen, and feeling more of the success that I truly am destined to be.