Last week during my 5k run that I lead (and no one showed up), I decided to go out on the run on my own. Negative thoughts were in my head from my attempt at the run two days prior and it was slowing me down. I was only focusing on what I was unable to achieve instead of what I could achieve. I would look at others running past me and I would think to myself “Why is that not me? Why am I slow? Why? Why? Why?” None of these thoughts were productive or even in any way supportive to my goal of completing this run. Then, I had a thought – and that was to change what I was saying in my mind to the following positive mantra: I am – Strong. Beautiful. Confident. Deserving. Successful. I couldn’t believe what happened! My stride increased, my energy was up, and I felt unstoppable. It’s amazing how a change in attitude and thoughts can make things lighter, more enjoyable, and making you feel good! Let’s break it all down for fun, as things have been a bit difficult lately and I am sure I am not the only one who goes through things like this.
For as long as I can remember, I have struggled with my weight. Comparing myself to who I think I should look like and why I don’t look like them and be a size (insert said number here). Being strong is being sexy. I don’t have to be bones and skin, but more of bones, skin, muscle, and a bit of curves, never hurt anyone, and being healthy is important. Strong in mind. Strong in body. I have just started an amazing team training called F45, and this was just to improve what I am lacking – motivation, recognition, being pushed to achieve more, and a team environment. It’s good to be strong! Both physically and mentally!
Again, just like struggling with my weight, another was my image. Beauty glows from the inside out. If you think and speak negative thoughts you will ultimately have these vibes come out of you without even saying anything. Everyone is beautiful in their own way, and we need to embrace this beauty in others and share it with them. When was the last time you said you were beautiful to someone? I have to thank my Mom for doing this on a daily basis, as when we become so judgmental, we can forget to tell ourselves – you are beautiful today.
Fake it till you make it. Put on a show and don’t turn back. Speak with your head held up high and own it. All of these things are what you can do to be more than confident in every thing you do. There is a difference between being confident and cocky. No one wants to be around someone who is putting themselves on a “show”, be genuine to who you are and confident about that.
Here is a big piece of the pie that I am dealing with at the moment, to know that I am deserving of the best. That I will not settle for less and know that I can do better. This area at the moment comes to what you can title more of relationships, because they can be casual, brief, long term, whatever it might be. Surround yourself with the people who are liked minded to you, then you will be surrounded with what you need to succeed. Surround yourself with others who raise you to the next level and not bring you down. Do not attempt to make a piece not fit into the puzzle, as when you think that you made it fit, it doesn’t flow with the picture and you will see it stand out. In the past month I have learnt to not let others who do not want to be in my company bring me down, as I am to share my time with those who truly want to be around someone of my ability, potential, and goal setting.
It has been coming up on almost 6 months that I have left ships. This was my area of comfort, ability to not worry about anything, travel, friendships, and it was what I knew. I was in my comfort zone and I did feel successful on most days but there was something missing. What was missing was that element of being stable and having a solid foundation. Here I am creating that foundation and it is scary. Things are not as easy as they were at sea and you need to really push yourself to make things happen on land. I will be successful here and not need to run back to sea when things get tough or not what I had planned. A successful mind will be a successful life. I can do this, a challenge only makes you stronger, so I will become that much more in the big picture.
So there it is. My mantra for: loving who you are, your situation, and anything else that needs a bit of extra loving. You are – Strong. Beautiful. Confident. Deserving. Successful. Go and share this with who you love – tell them just that. Happy Monday!